Why Do Marriages Fail
At Olive Tree Officiating we obviously believe that the wedding is the beginning of something very big. We believe that the wedding ceremony is the starting gun for a new set of experiences that will move an individual’s life from black and white to high definition color. Not all people believe.
1-1=0 Your life will change when you get married but it should grow in all the positive ways. It will grow in love, curiosity, fulfillment and strength but you must be a positive part of the equation. Subtracting from you spouse’s joy will end badly for you both. How do spouses take away from each other’s martial potential? By being a drag, being slow to try new things, slow to pick up responsibilities and to get stuff done. Learning to work with your spouse is tough but necessary. You and they are not always willing. Why do marriages fail? Marriages fail when the two parties stop investing in the marriage and start investing in themselves. 1+0 will never equal 2 it can only equal 1. Check yourself before you start doing bad marital-math.
1+0=1 If you are an non-entity in the marriage than you are leaving the marriage worse than when you started. Neutrality is a false position. You have to invest in you intend for the marriage to succeed. Neutrality is not an option. It leads one spouse to determine that they are better off alone. The myth of neutrality says, “I can let my spouse live their life while I live my life.” This is “1-1=0” thinking in disguise and it will net you nothing. Neutrality happens for two reasons: too many rigid expectations or not enough expectation sharing. If you have a lot of expectations about married-life be ready to let a few go. If you have no expectations get ready to man-up and make some decisions.
1+1=2 You’ve heard this I’m sure. It’s true. Consider this: in marriage two people share the expenses, the cooking, the cleaning and all the rest of the labor-activities you can think of. It’s that simple. Two people are stronger, smarter, faster, tougher and more calculated than one. The same is true emotionally: two people are more intuitive, more understanding and theoretically more loving than one. In life you will have adventure; a spouse will heighten that experience. In life you will have adversaries; who better than your spouse to protect you. Life is best lived together.
The threat of a failed marriage can lead us to believe marriage just isn’t worth it. Think again. The math is simple: 1+1=2. 2 are always greater than 1.
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